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Question by I can eat in public too!: Isn't it OUR wedding? long question...?
How do you deal with a future MIL who challenges EVERY decision you're making with your wedding? I just started planning and she has something to say about every little thing already! and we haven't even thought of any real little details yet!
example: I want to have pie at my wedding instead of cake, because I love pie and it'd be strawberry season when we're getting married and a good strawberry rhubarb pie is better than any cake in my opinion -- and my fiance agrees. My future MIL last night comes over and asks about that and says that it'd be an awesome theme for the bridal shower and that we can have a pie bridal shower but we can't have pie at the wedding. she kept going on and on about the pie bridal shower! How lame is that for a bridal shower theme? Nothing should be themed around the pie, I just wanted pie at my wedding. But she kept saying "I think that's an awesome idea for the shower!" I said I wanted to give tarts away for wedding favors and she shot that down by saying that'd be too messy and people will carry the pie in their suit coats and it'll get all over their clothes. WTF? I'm inviting adults to the wedding, I think they can handle pie.
another example: We're also looking at places to book and there's a place I found and can actually afford and it's BEAUTIFUL and it holds 100 people inside and we'd have a tent outside for more people to go in and out. my FMIL keeps bitching about how she heard that the place I want to book has no room in it (it does, I checked it out) for that many people and then she sends me links to these banquet halls (not my style at all) and these places that don't even hold that many people! She suggested a place that only holds 70 people. She suggests banquet halls even though I said I want to have the reception outside. She already had her wedding!
am I being crazy or is it just weird that EVERYTHING I've brought up has been shot down by her. aside from not talking to her about the wedding until the actual day happens, what can I do to keep from going crazy? My fiance just ignores her and has for his whole life practically (she's quite nosey), so I can't exactly have him tell her to back off. SHE'S going to make me into a bridezilla.
anyways, were your in-laws like this? what's the worst thing your in-laws (or any family member) did at your wedding or during your wedding planning? STORIES please! I don't want to feel all alone in my FMIL hell...
oh god, nachele! that's AWFUL!! I'd never speak to the lady myself if she did that to me.
she also wants me to have a cash bar and said she refuses to help with anything on the day of the wedding because it's her day to relax! it's myyyyy day, MY DAYYY, I want a day! I get a day, I deserve a day. I feel like she's stealing the spotlight. she's also the woman who calls our son "her baby." he's MY baby! I want to cry just thinking about it.
and I admit, I just used this question to vent but I needed it and feel much better... 
Ihaveaquestionforyou -- I was talking about my actual son, not my fiance when I was explaining the 'my baby' thing. she calls MY son her baby. not my fiance. it's her grandchild, not her baby. she didn't give birth to her grandson, I did. I could care less if she calls her son her baby, because I have my own baby and my fiance isn't my baby.
and I am not compromising with her for every decision with our wedding, and that's what it's turning out to be. the location, the date, the food, the pie, the invites, my dress, the colors, etc. have all been a huge thing to her and everything has been a discussion and turned into a battle. and she wants to do all of that her way. She wants me to use her friend's purple wedding decorations and purple isn't a color. know what I'm saying?
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Answer by Luv2Answer
I think you are right about her over stepping and saying too much BUT I honestly think she is just being helpful. She is right about the cake and the issue with the venue I think.
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Question by Stephanie: What to do, there's only a month until her big day?
My wedding is on April 24 (which is 13 days away). My friend Josh's wedding is two weeks after my wedding. I am good friends with his fiance Molly, and I'm in the wedding, along with my 8 year old daughter and my soon to be Husband.
However, I have bent over backwards to make accommodations for her wedding. Her Maid of Honor is a few years younger than me (age wise) and several years behind me (maturity wise). She tried to schedule Molly's bridal shower on the exact same day as my bridal shower, and couldn't understand why we were both upset.
There's been several other issues, such as her attitude towards me whenever I've voiced a concern or if I didn't like something she was doing.
A huge issue for me was when I found out that they scheduled Molly's bachelorette party for the weekend that I'm gone on my honeymoon. They didn't bother to tell me until about two weeks after they scheduled it and there was "no way" to rearrange it. I attempted to beg and plead with them, as I wanted to be there but they would not have it. I understand that if everyone had requested off, etc.. but I wasn't included at all in the planning. Her MOH also got extremely nasty with me, and as a result, I have tried to avoid anything at all that includes this girl. I do NOT want to make things worse for the Bride, as I KNOW this is about her.
I just see things differently for my own wedding. It isn't all about me. Everyone else has feelings, etc, etc.
Anyways, today she had a "personal shower" - which was like her 4th "wedding related shower", which I feel is overkill but w/e... I was going to come, but another bridesmaid texted me and said she would advise me not to come and she'd call me later.. I said okay, and continued about with my day.
She called me and said that they were all (the Mom's that were there, the bridesmaids, but not that bridesmaid and not the bride) talking poorly about me, making fun of me because I wasn't there, etc, etc, etc. The bridesmaid was concerned for me and didn't want my feelings to get hurt. She knows I'm trying hard to be civil with this girl and what not.
My question is this. Am I wrong for wanting to have nothing to do with this wedding? I am so tired of this girl causing drama and upset. I'm not trying to hurt the bride & groom, but I am really tired of this and I'm not trying to cause any further drama or upset. I'm absolutely dreading any time that I have to spend in a room with that girl.
I would much prefer to go to the wedding as a guest instead of a bridesmaid.
Thanks in advance.
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Question by mellie0786: Bridesmaid required to buy gift?
I'm a bridesmaid in my good friends wedding and she is having 2 bridal showers...
The Bridal party is throwing one "a personal shower" with alot of her young friends! So the 4 of us are spending the money to throw this shower for the bride!
The 2nd one is being thrown by a family friend "a bridal shower tea" very proper...
Well am I supposed to buy a gift for the bride and groom at the "bridal shower tea" , or just a wedding gift?
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Answer by Mikaela C
hi you can try this one:
wedding-tips4you.blogspot.com
it really worked for me
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Question by : I'm looking on a dating site for women with tattoos, since they our sexy.?
A few of them have in there personal profile section that they are into "All kinds of showers" . What does this mean, like taking showers? Or baby/bridal showers?
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Answer by Anonymous
All that, and maybe they mean they also like a shower...of a golden variety...
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For an eco-consious bride, you might want to plan an eco-friendly bridal shower for her. It is not that difficult to this type of bridal shower. In fact, using organic items and products to dress up the whole event can be a lot of fun!
The first thing you want to do is to look for the perfect venue. Since it is an eco-friendly themed event, you want to think of a green backdrop with a combination fresh, blooming flowers. You can probably hold it in your garden or backyard. Local parks, vineyard, or even forest and other outdoor venue can make a good venue for such occasion. With these venue ideas, expect that it will going to be a fresh and relaxing bridal shower for the bride-to-be, with lots of greenery and organic ideas to complete the whole eco-friendly affair.
Planning a "Green" bridal shower should involve organic food as well. This is something that you should not miss! If you have a good place that serves organic dishes, then it's a lot easier for you to plan the whole thing. There are lots of restaurants that serve such food, however tend to be pricey. You can talk to the manager or owner and ask if they give discount for a group of customers.
If it's going to be a home-based bridal shower, you might want to consider hiring a catering company or pay some people who can cook organic dishes. Don't forget to look at the options that within your reach, like your mom, grandmother, sister, or cousin. Some of the popular organic foods that you may want to serve at the bridal shower include a french vegetable salad, fruit salad, all-natural chicken, and fresh fruit and homemade crust. Make sure that they are made with organic ingredients and are free from commercialized seasonings.
Having picnic-type party also makes a wonderful idea for an eco-friendly bridal shower. This includes packing organic food into a nice wicker basket. Do not forget to bring blankets, which will replace the chairs. You can have the guests and the bride-to-be cross-sitting on the blankets while enjoying the whole event. This picnic-styled bridal shower is a more relaxing affair that both guests and bride will definitely enjoy.
There are lots of websites these days that offer electronic invites for those who plan an eco-friendly party. E-invites are designed to invite party guests without sending conventional invitations that are made of special paper. You can have friends and family members of the bride invited though these e-invites, which are basically sent to guests' email addresses.
For the favors, of course they should be as organic as other details as well. You can think of homemade ideas such as homemade organic cookies, honey, or jams. Or if you are good in making homemade candles or soaps, then why not consider them? Another popular organic bridal shower favors are seed packets. You can purchase seeds from a local nursery.
Organizing an eco-friendly bridal shower is an ideal way to also show concern and love to our mother nature. For some more bridal shower ideas, you can simply browse the Internet where you can find endless options when it comes to bridal shower invitations, bridal shower games, bridal shower favors, and a lot more.
Jnet is an author for a variety of lifestyle issues and topics including weddings. If you're looking for wedding party gifts, visit the website Mybridesmaidsgifts.com and browse their extensive collection. Find bridal shower themes to make it extra special!
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