31 weeks pregnant and I haven’t had a baby shower yet…?
Question by Alexandra's Mommy: 31 weeks pregnant and I haven't had a baby shower yet...?
Hi! I'm 31 weeks along and my mother-in-law (who I don't really see eye-to-eye with) has made me promise to have a shower for my little one because I didn't want a bridal shower when I got married. Now, we don't really get along, but as soon as she found out I was pregnant, she has been real sweet to me. I was ok with the baby shower because it's not really for me, it's for my little girl. Everyone keeps asking me "when is the shower?" And she hasn't done the first thing for it. She has 2 other children, so I understand she can be busy with them. But she basically in so many words has said we have to schedule everything around her kids and when it's convenient for her. She said, "end of May beginning of June." I am due in June. lol. My mother has said she will do it and has no problem with getting everything together, but how can we tell his mother that she isn't going to be planning it anymore without hurting her feelings?
Also, the reason why we are pushing it is if we don't have everything we need after the shower, we don't want to have to scramble to get everything together at the last minute. We have to work on a budget.
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Answer by Megs
You could tell her, I understand you have a lot on your plate and so that your mom will throw you the shower, but if she would like to she is more then welcome to help out with planning the shower.
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This is somewhat similar to the situation I went through. My mother was going to throw me the shower, wanted to do it, refused to let others help her at all even though everyone was volunteering, yet at the same time acted and at one point admitted that it was an inconvenience. She was moving at the time so busy as can be, which I understood but didn’t appreciate her brushing it off soo often. Like oh we don’t need any decoration, no food, maybe just a cake and maybe an hour long and then everyone can leave. Um….fun lol. In the end she got the act together and it turned out to be a really nice shower. So in your situation, i’d still let the MOH host it for you if she really likes, but do express to her a time frame where you’d like to have it. Make it a decent window of say a couple weeks so she doesn’t feel cornered. Just explain you would like the shower early enough that your not worried about going into labor early, and so you and your hubby have plenty of time to get everything you weren’t given and prep for baby. Things take time to set up and you don’t need to be stressed those last couple weeks. This is putting things a little more on your terms, but again, she shouldn’t be offended by any means. Surely she can find a time in a 2 weeks period to work around her and her childrens schedule. If she can’t and her schedule is that busy, then she shouldn’t be the one hosting it and would have to be told that she’s just too busy and you don’t want her having the added stress on herself. But again always make her feel like she has some control and that should make her feel happy and avoid any unwanted animosicity.
I understand. I had mine at 34 weeks and that was from my mom. It is very frustrating. Could you have your mom call her and just tell her she’s wondering if you are having a shower? Tell your mom to say something like “do you want to go in together and have one.” If she doesn’t, have 2 showers. That would be just fine.
I would have your mother call her and ask what the plans are and if they can do it together. This keeps her accountable, but also lets you mother be involved.
I completely understand where you’re coming from, I’m also due in June. My baby shower has been planned for May 16th (I’ll be 35 & a half weeks) but there was a time in late March where my mother-in-law wanted to plan it. She kept procrastinating and eventually my aunt took over and ended up planning the entire thing.
It’s your shower, so first off it should be when it’s convenient for you. Second, just because she’s busy doesn’t mean she can push things to the last minute. Everyone has a schedule to keep, including you and the people you want to invite. The longer she procrastinates the less time people will have to R.S.V.P. to the shower.
If I were you I would sit down with her and be very open and honest about how you feel. Tell her you’d love for her to host the shower, but if she wants to do it she needs to start planning soon. You want to have the shower with enough time leftover to enjoy the remainder of your pregnancy and not worry about being prepared. Hopefully she’ll be understanding and if not you’ll really have to consider having someone else throw the shower for you.
Good luck!
I definitely think that end of May beginning of June is a bit late for you to have your baby shower! My friend had her baby shower 5 weeks before she was due, and she was just exhausted by the end of the day. She also had her baby a week later so barely had enough time to get the things she didn’t receive at the shower. Another friend had hers planned for 36 weeks and her baby was 5 weeks prem, so she missed out! You have to consider that possibility too – that you may go into early labour. I’m having mine in 3 weeks when I’ll be 32 weeks, as I feel like I will still have some energy and at least then I will hopefully have enough time to get the last bits and pieces before bub arrives
just be honest with her and say that you think it might be leaving it too late. give her the option to either plan it earlier or perhaps organise a separate one after the baby is born…
anyway it will all work out, don’t stress, do what you want to do! i hope this makes sense… it’s 3am and i’ve been at work since 8 last night, sooooo tired!
congrats as well, exciting times ahead! xx