Sabrina's bridal shower
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Article by Jeff Fain
The bridal shower is a time of fun, fellowship, and friends forever. In a bridal shower, the bride's closest friends and allies assemble together at the bride's house for a party to celebrate the bride. The friends, relatives, and colleagues 'shower' the bride with gifts. Originally, bridal showers were intended to replace the gifts lost through a dowry that didn't go through because the father of the bride didn't approve of the marriage. Because of this, bridal showers are a recent phenomenon. They're endemic to America and Canada especially so you'll be sure to find the best bridal shower invitations from Internet vendors in one of those two countries.
Bridal shower invitations are fun to send out because you're 100% certain that you will receive some great gifts in return from all your friends. Friends are likely to bring gifts that will help you establish your new home. In the past, bridal showers were also intended to establish the woman's role as homemaker and traditional housewife. This has gradually been replaced with a pure gift-giving session; sometimes, the husband is even involved in this celebration that was originally reserved just for females.
Usually, the maid of honor plans the bridal shower and sends out the invitation so she should keep some basic tenets in mind. First, the bride-to-be is a princess for a day. Second, send out invitations 2 weeks ahead of time to give everyone time to prepare. Third, don't invite guests to the shower if they're not invited to the wedding, for obvious reasons. Fourth, plan to have the shower in the afternoon. Fifth, use board games and other games to help the guests get to know each other. Sixth, don't pressure the guests into giving expensive gifts if they can't afford them. Cheap gifts can be just as good and functional. Include a list of inexpensive items on the registry for cash-strapped bridal shower guests. Seventh, choose a few good movies that all the girls will love to watch. These are especially fun at the end of the night after a few bottles of wine or champagne.
The bridal shower invitations shouldn't be too fancy or else the guests will think they have to dress up and bring expensive gifts and such. Make sure that the invitations are fun, yet classy. Don't use overpriced cards because it will send the wrong impression right off the bat. Make the bride's bridal shower a time of shared memories and future hopes. Don't let anything blur that beautiful dream.
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Question by : Are work gifts getting out of hand?
The work place as home and company and co-workers as "family" ploy has always gotten under my skin. The natural result of this scam is any birthday, baby shower, bridal shower or any other personal life event is bound to come with a party. The hat is passed around and you are expected to chip in for a gift for someone you may hardly know.I get the "we're all chipping in $ 25" for Mildred's shower" or "the secret Santa minimum is $ 10 this year" It is more than annoying. Maybe $ 25 is a lot for my budget, we don't all earn the same.Maybe I don't celebrate holidays with material things. Why isn't just signing a card and having one of the honorees close friends bring a cake enough? It creates an unnecessary level of pressure for participation and potential financial burden.
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Answer by Katherine
Well, the people I work with aren't too friendly, and none of us like each other. So, we don't do the whole gift thing. People get married and have babies and no one acknowledges it. As much as I wish I had a cool work environment where we all talked and could go hang out together, it's kind of better not talking to one another. My aunt is the supervisor of her office and she's constantly putting together gift baskets for co workers she doesn't even like. I tell her she's completely insane.
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Question by armywife: How to handle sisters FMIL?? I'm MOH in her wedding.?
I'm MOH in sisters wedding. I stepped up to my responsibility and began planning the shower. There are only 3 BM. Our other sister and the FSIL. I have discussed plans with the bride. I wasn't intending to make this a surprise, I wanted to take her input into consideration. I asked her to set up a list and she did, asked her what she would like to happen and she gave me her ideas. I decided it would be best to have a Jack&Jill. We are a Non-traditional family and her FH feels the same. Since I began planning, I have sent emails out to the bridal party. Since it is J&J the men from the bridal party are chipping in with the cost of the club. (Please remember we are non-traditional and I do not need to hear how inappropriate it is to have the men chip in, I've heard it before from other posts) I sent each one an email asking them to give me an idea of how much they believe they can contribute. Nobody set me anything. FSIL mentioned having the shower at her place. (I thanked her but declined-shes' type of person who is trying to take over and I will not allow this to happen) We want it at the club. Guest list is high. 61. I've already posted questions about opening gifts. Couple decided to not since there are so many people, and they feel that with the economy with the way it is, they wouldn't want to embarrass anyone who could not afford an extravagant gift or nothing at all.( Groom knows that his mother is type to gush over how extravagent her gift is and will possibly be judgemental on others gifts--we are avoiding this) They also want to spend their time with family and friends, not sitting opening gifts all night long. This is more of a "social" then a "shower". Invitations have been sent. Sisters FMIL calls me. leaves a VM. Apparantly, she wants to add more people. We can't afford it. 61 was high enough. Sisters FSIL has a problem with them not opening gifts, says its unettiqute. Well, thats just how it is, we are untraditional. However, I sent a note along with the invitations explaining that th couple requested to open gfts privately to allow for more time with family and friends...however if one would like their gift opened at the party to let the hostess know and the couple would be happy to do so. I believe it was very tastful and most people woud understand the request. How am I to approach the FMIL about not inviting others (mention if there are regrets that then she could squeeze in other guests?) And the FSIL? How do I approach this, as far as this is my planning, I had asked for the BM input prior and nobody offered their oppinions until it was too late. I had to send the invites out for it was cutting it really too close unitl the party. I planned this whole thing by myself...I don't feel any of them have the right to make any judgements, complaints or oppinions since hey all decided to ignore my request for input. Its long I'm sorry.
you know...i should have probably mentioned that my sisters fiance is 40. Hes' long been gone from home, his mother isn't going to be "letting him go"... Shes' already had her daughters wedding years ago and 2 grandchildren...not that this wedding doesn't matter to her as well...but its tacky to be causing "issues" with a 40 yr olds wedding....
not sure where you get your attitude from "HIS",but If I didn't care i wouldn't have wasted time asking people on this site. Next, You have NO idea what information I offered to the rest of the bridal party. I, yes, took charge, as MOH of my youngest sisters wedding, yes, I took the reigns. Don't sit there and tell me why nobody sent me info. Because you honestly do not know. Where you get off thinking you are some sort of guru of showers because you "Planned" so many is beyond me. I too have had my share in planning showers. YOu have NO idea of our circumstance or why emails may have been the best way to communicate. You have no idea as to how I approached the idea of a shower either. And how dare you even mention the notion that I would steal money from people! Maybe you were dumb enough to get screwed over a few times, but this doesn't mean that it happens to everyone. It was asked, they accepted the responsibilty of chiping in, thats that. Really I am so unimpressed with your post!
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Answer by angeldust_599
As far as the not opening gifts goes...I think thats fine as long as your sister sends everyone a nice thank you card for the gifts they received. As far as your sisters mother-in-law goes...I would simply tell her you are at your max for guests and cannot add anyone else. Tell her your sister helped with the guest list and everyone she wanted was already invited. As for FSIL I wouldnt say anything unless she continues to carry on about it in which I would simply tell her this was the decision on the bride and groom...not you and if she had a problem with it she should have made it known to your sister and her brother prior to the invited being sent out. I would be nice as possible though...try and keep the peace in the family.
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Question by ♫ serendippy522 ♫: Thwarting a bridezilla?
Sorry for the lengthiness, but thank you for reading and for any/all advice.
Last winter my coworker/teammate announced her engagement.
Since I'm handy with crafts and always enjoy a good project, I offered to help with favors, etc.
After she showed me a cheap-looking card box for the reception she found online, I offered to make one for her, which she and others found to be genuinely gorgeous (and acceptable).
A few weeks ago, the invite came, and from there things have gone downhill.
The invite came addressed just to me, a single girl, with no invite for a "plus one". The few other coworkers invited - the only people I will know at the wedding - all will have invited dates.
Then, the bottom of the invite specified there would be a "Wishing Well Reception" (i.e. the couple's way of specifying they only want cash gifts). Of course, both of those left an odd taste in my mouth.
Last week, the bride started asking me if I've gotten my invite for the bridal shower thrown by her maid of honor which included the couple's families. I hadn't, but she continued to ask and ultimately extended the invite. Since after almost 10 years of knowing each other, we have never hung out socially, I also found this odd, but after I told her I would "shower" her outside of the event, she was cheery and never pushed for my presence at the shower again.
The shower was this weekend, and apparently was a disaster due to poor planning on the maid of honor's part (not all invites were sent, no cake, spoiled food, etc). The bride now knows that the maid of honor failed to follow thru on other key assignments for the Big Day (cake deposit, order ice sculpture, etc), and because of this, the bride/coworker is crossing her t's and dotting her i's in a panic.
Among the things she is now not satisfied with is the card box I made, which apparently now is not big enough, in her opinion. She's asked me to add to it, less than one week before she goes on leave wedding! I never committed to "fixing" it, reminding her (as she already knows) that money is tight and I don't have the cash nor time to work on it, but she keeps talking like since I already made the first box that amending it is my responsibility to her.
While I feel for her that she can't count on those who she entrusted to help plan her big day, the whole situation has made me sour as I feel that I'm not invited as a longtime acquaintance and close team member that she wants to share her day with, but just as another person to finance the wedding she can't afford, and now I really, really don't want to be a part of it.
Soooo...with all the details here, keeping in mind she is a close coworker (teammate on a small team of 6), should I suck it up and go to the wedding to keep good graces during the work week, or simply send a card with a check and call it a day? How do I get out of "fixing" this card box without there being resentment, also?
Thank you in advance for any and all help!!!
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Answer by Scribbles
How awkward. In this world there are givers and takers. You are the former and she is the latter. I think in your shoes I would say that regrettably I am unable to attend her wedding due to something unforeseen and wish the couple well with a card and a cheque of whatever you can afford and not a penny more. If you can sensibly fix the box then do so (and that will be the last favour you offer her) and if not you must tell her that you are unable to do so as you thought it was fine until such late notice but are now unable to get more materials to do it in time for her big day. She is so disorganised that she has left you no time and if she can get you the materials you need and pay for them then maybe you would consider doing the box but you don't have the extra funds at the moment. You have done nothing wrong here and have gone out of your way to accommodate this ungrateful brat so stand your ground. She certainly won't be helping you out if you put yourself out for her or in debt for her, so don't. As for work, she'll have to be professional about it or else she will be the one who ends up looking unreasonable and unprofessional. Stand your ground and best of luck.
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Question by I can eat in public too!: Isn't it OUR wedding? long question...?
How do you deal with a future MIL who challenges EVERY decision you're making with your wedding? I just started planning and she has something to say about every little thing already! and we haven't even thought of any real little details yet!
example: I want to have pie at my wedding instead of cake, because I love pie and it'd be strawberry season when we're getting married and a good strawberry rhubarb pie is better than any cake in my opinion -- and my fiance agrees. My future MIL last night comes over and asks about that and says that it'd be an awesome theme for the bridal shower and that we can have a pie bridal shower but we can't have pie at the wedding. she kept going on and on about the pie bridal shower! How lame is that for a bridal shower theme? Nothing should be themed around the pie, I just wanted pie at my wedding. But she kept saying "I think that's an awesome idea for the shower!" I said I wanted to give tarts away for wedding favors and she shot that down by saying that'd be too messy and people will carry the pie in their suit coats and it'll get all over their clothes. WTF? I'm inviting adults to the wedding, I think they can handle pie.
another example: We're also looking at places to book and there's a place I found and can actually afford and it's BEAUTIFUL and it holds 100 people inside and we'd have a tent outside for more people to go in and out. my FMIL keeps bitching about how she heard that the place I want to book has no room in it (it does, I checked it out) for that many people and then she sends me links to these banquet halls (not my style at all) and these places that don't even hold that many people! She suggested a place that only holds 70 people. She suggests banquet halls even though I said I want to have the reception outside. She already had her wedding!
am I being crazy or is it just weird that EVERYTHING I've brought up has been shot down by her. aside from not talking to her about the wedding until the actual day happens, what can I do to keep from going crazy? My fiance just ignores her and has for his whole life practically (she's quite nosey), so I can't exactly have him tell her to back off. SHE'S going to make me into a bridezilla.
anyways, were your in-laws like this? what's the worst thing your in-laws (or any family member) did at your wedding or during your wedding planning? STORIES please! I don't want to feel all alone in my FMIL hell...
oh god, nachele! that's AWFUL!! I'd never speak to the lady myself if she did that to me.
she also wants me to have a cash bar and said she refuses to help with anything on the day of the wedding because it's her day to relax! it's myyyyy day, MY DAYYY, I want a day! I get a day, I deserve a day. I feel like she's stealing the spotlight. she's also the woman who calls our son "her baby." he's MY baby! I want to cry just thinking about it.
and I admit, I just used this question to vent but I needed it and feel much better... 
Ihaveaquestionforyou -- I was talking about my actual son, not my fiance when I was explaining the 'my baby' thing. she calls MY son her baby. not my fiance. it's her grandchild, not her baby. she didn't give birth to her grandson, I did. I could care less if she calls her son her baby, because I have my own baby and my fiance isn't my baby.
and I am not compromising with her for every decision with our wedding, and that's what it's turning out to be. the location, the date, the food, the pie, the invites, my dress, the colors, etc. have all been a huge thing to her and everything has been a discussion and turned into a battle. and she wants to do all of that her way. She wants me to use her friend's purple wedding decorations and purple isn't a color. know what I'm saying?
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Answer by Luv2Answer
I think you are right about her over stepping and saying too much BUT I honestly think she is just being helpful. She is right about the cake and the issue with the venue I think.
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Question by Stephanie: What to do, there's only a month until her big day?
My wedding is on April 24 (which is 13 days away). My friend Josh's wedding is two weeks after my wedding. I am good friends with his fiance Molly, and I'm in the wedding, along with my 8 year old daughter and my soon to be Husband.
However, I have bent over backwards to make accommodations for her wedding. Her Maid of Honor is a few years younger than me (age wise) and several years behind me (maturity wise). She tried to schedule Molly's bridal shower on the exact same day as my bridal shower, and couldn't understand why we were both upset.
There's been several other issues, such as her attitude towards me whenever I've voiced a concern or if I didn't like something she was doing.
A huge issue for me was when I found out that they scheduled Molly's bachelorette party for the weekend that I'm gone on my honeymoon. They didn't bother to tell me until about two weeks after they scheduled it and there was "no way" to rearrange it. I attempted to beg and plead with them, as I wanted to be there but they would not have it. I understand that if everyone had requested off, etc.. but I wasn't included at all in the planning. Her MOH also got extremely nasty with me, and as a result, I have tried to avoid anything at all that includes this girl. I do NOT want to make things worse for the Bride, as I KNOW this is about her.
I just see things differently for my own wedding. It isn't all about me. Everyone else has feelings, etc, etc.
Anyways, today she had a "personal shower" - which was like her 4th "wedding related shower", which I feel is overkill but w/e... I was going to come, but another bridesmaid texted me and said she would advise me not to come and she'd call me later.. I said okay, and continued about with my day.
She called me and said that they were all (the Mom's that were there, the bridesmaids, but not that bridesmaid and not the bride) talking poorly about me, making fun of me because I wasn't there, etc, etc, etc. The bridesmaid was concerned for me and didn't want my feelings to get hurt. She knows I'm trying hard to be civil with this girl and what not.
My question is this. Am I wrong for wanting to have nothing to do with this wedding? I am so tired of this girl causing drama and upset. I'm not trying to hurt the bride & groom, but I am really tired of this and I'm not trying to cause any further drama or upset. I'm absolutely dreading any time that I have to spend in a room with that girl.
I would much prefer to go to the wedding as a guest instead of a bridesmaid.
Thanks in advance.
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Question by mellie0786: Bridesmaid required to buy gift?
I'm a bridesmaid in my good friends wedding and she is having 2 bridal showers...
The Bridal party is throwing one "a personal shower" with alot of her young friends! So the 4 of us are spending the money to throw this shower for the bride!
The 2nd one is being thrown by a family friend "a bridal shower tea" very proper...
Well am I supposed to buy a gift for the bride and groom at the "bridal shower tea" , or just a wedding gift?
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Answer by Mikaela C
hi you can try this one:
wedding-tips4you.blogspot.com
it really worked for me
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