Question by sleepless1084: What's the etiquette with destination bridal showers?
I'm having a destination wedding and couldn't invite a lot of ppl I wanted to. I realize it's tacky to invite guests to a shower who aren't invtied to the wedding, but a neighbor of mine wants to throw it and invite others who aren't invited. On of my best friends who's invited also wants to throw a shower and invite a bunch of friends not invited. Should I let them throw the shower and hope everyone realizes I didn't ask for this? Should I tell them no? The wedding is costing us a TON already so we can't afford to pay for a party after the wedding. Could we somehow get them to have a "shower" after the wedding?
I feel like I made myself sound worse than I am. I'm OK not having showers. When I chose my location I accepted that. It was hard cutting people from the list and I had to cut a lot of people I'm pretty close to but I had to draw the line at only immediate family and the best friends. I really want some others to be able to share in it with me b/c i feel like I'm hurting them when I have to tell them it's an intimate wedding and I couldn't invite them. I had hoped to have party after, but the wedding quickly added up to more than we had planned. Perhaps we can try the house party. The neighbor has asked my mom twice about the shower and both times she has expressed we feel it's tacky, but she says since it's a destination wedding people are more relaxed about the etiquette. While I feel bad inviting ppl, I also feel bad turning her down when she really wants to do it. Perhaps if we keep it to just the very close neighbors? and that recipe idea sounds smart.

Best answer:

Answer by Emily Dew
By "letting them" throw these showers, you ARE agreeing to them. Of course you should tell them no. It's very rude to invite people to a shower when they aren't invited to the wedding. It's your choice to have a destination wedding ... not something that's being foisted upon you. The cost of your wedding is also not your guests' problem. Once again, you chose this. You're supposed to have a wedding and honeymoon that you can afford. Perhaps someone will offer to host a reception for you two after you get back for those who couldn't attend and then, if any guests feel so inclined, they may decide to give you a gift. If not, that's their choice. You sound very greedy and materialistic and it sounds like you're fishing for ways to justify it.

EDIT: If people are asking about a shower, why not just register somewhere and give them that information. That way, if they want to send a gift (considering they asked first), fine ... it will be their choice ... and you won't come off looking like you're gift grubbing.

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Question by shootme: women on here and showers...?
why do women in this forum make it seem like even *wanting* a bridal shower is a really bad thing? almost every bride wants a shower...

my sister is my maid of honor and she has no clue what to do, she's only 21 and has never even been to a wedding before. so she asked me what her duties are and I told her what they are including the hosting the shower. so she hosted it and was totally happy to do so. i was a little more involved in the planning of my own shower than is "normal" by ettiquette standards, she didn't know my bridesmaids and felt stupid not knowing anything about weddings, so she asked me EVERYTHING.

i think if someone is your maid of honor and you can't say to them "i want a bridal shower" then maybe they shouldn't be your maid of honor...
I'm going to Vegas too for the bachelorette party...wooo hooo.

and i mean this all in the least bitchy way possible...not demanding at all. anyone who is demanding should eat their shirt.
i've already had my shower...i was just sharing my sentiments
Tiff Tiff,

yes i did want gifts, but not in the way that you made it sound.

my point is that if someone is your maid of honor, you shouldn't be afraid of saying "i would like a bridal shower". she's my sister, and asked what she is supposed to do and people like YOU make it sound like it's a horrible thing.

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Answer by Blunt
I do not want a shower. I have plenty of stuff as it is and do not need anymore. besides, I want to be considerate to my friends and do not wish them to spend MORE money and take time for their busy schedules for a shower. My best friends are 1. Nurse 2. Physical therapist 3. Engineer. 4) and architect... they are all maried with kids and they do not have time for showers... I really do not want to incovienence them,

We all have a busy schedule and I'm not in need of home furnishings. We'll go all the way with a Vegas bachelorette party though. They are IN for that LOL!

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by bruna camargo

Planning a bridal shower for a bride-to-be is just a thoughtful idea to show to her your love and care. Yes, it's a challenge to be her maid of honor, plus the fact that everyone is expecting that you are gonna be the one who will plan the shower for her. But just keep in mind that the reward is always much greater than the risk. Planning a bridal shower anyway makes a wonderful gift for the bride that she will never forget throughout her life!

If you are planning to organize a bridal shower but you are concerned about your budget, don't worry because there are plenty of ways to trim down your expenses. Why not opt for cheap bridal shower favors?

Bridal shower favors and even wedding favors are not mandatory, but are great to give to the party guests. Favors hold some special purpose and meaning. Each receiving guest will feel thanked and appreciated when given a special token at the bridal shower. Giving bridal shower favors however, doesn't mean that you have to spend a lot on the favors. If you are on a budget, then be it. Anyway, there are so many cheap favors that you can find out there.

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If you opt for cheap bridal shower favors, don't feel like you are limited to low grade tokens that sure to be given less importance at the bridal shower. Find some really good quality items that when you purchase them, the seller will give you a big discount. Most of the time this happens online. Check out various websites that that can cater your need for bridal shower favors that really look good, yet can be purchased at a low price.

Some cheap bridal shower favors that you may consider are:

*   Mini photo albums that you can decorate and personalize by simply placing your few photographs. Mini photo albums can be purchased in bulk at a discount price.
*   Key chains or key rings that almost all people need. Key chains and key rings are available in many different designs, shapes, styles, and colors to choose from. They can also be personalized by engraving names, initials, or other creative elements on them.
*   Manicure bags that every girl at the party will sure to appreciate. You can find favor bags in a wide variety of designs, colors, and styles to choose from. Pick the best type of bags and then fill them with some manicure paraphernalia, and embellish them with pretty ribbons.
*   Colored paper fans which are great for a bridal shower held on a warm day. The guests will sure to enjoy using paper fans even after the shower when they really need to cool themselves off. Paper fans can be decorated with some pretty graphics, ribbons, or other beautiful trims.
*  Mini bottles of wine or any liquor can also make an inexpensive choice. But just ensure that all the minors at the party will have their own separate favors. You can add a card printed with a toast proposal for a final touch.

Planning a bridal shower on a budget is not that difficult though. With these cheap bridal shower favors to choose from, anyone who wants plan a bridal shower will not be discouraged. Aside from favors, you can also save money on the bridal shower decorations, bridal shower invites, and bridal shower games and prizes.

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by Sarah Parrott

Question by Katy: How many bridal showers were you given? Any "couple's showers"?
I ask because I am going through some DRAMA over my showers. .(getting married in June). My aunt ( who is my matron of honor) is throwing me a shower for everyone on my side of the fam., & my parents friends to come to.

My soon to be M.I.L. is planning a "couple's shower" . .and instead of having a separate shower for me (with her friends & members of her church) she is wanting to have one big shower- guys, girls, my fiance, his bro, his dad, his friends, elderly church ladies, husband & wife couples, her friends, & other random ppl, to all come to. This woman is Mrs.Wedding.Shower.Hostess of her town, and has given every girl I know a bridal shower. . yet she is bascally refusing to let her family, or my future sis-in-law, ( who is my bridesmaid & has told her repeatedly she wants to give me one) throw me a shower.

My MIL has only sons, and obviously is a control freak, & cares only about how much my fiance is "included" in this whole wedding bullsh*t. She is pushing this whole "couples shower" to a ridic. level.

Oh, how I could go on and on about this woman. .

AND I'm already letting her do the entire rehearsal dinner, wedding favors, flower girl basket, and many other details the exact way she wants! I am amazed how she is getting her way with my showers too.
Oh yes, she knows she can't technically host us a shower of any kind. . which is why she is putting her son's wife's (julie)name as hostess. She even called julie to explain this to her.
We are obviously both having a hard time standing up to her, because we don't want to start any extra drama with her & our fiance/husbands

Best answer:

Answer by Orange2009
It is tacky for your Mother in Law to have a shower for you at all. Only friends or Maids or matrons of the bride should have a shower. It is not edicate for mother's or mil to have showers. It looks like they are hunting for gifts for their children.

When I was married my coworkers threw a surprise shower at work and my bridesmaids had one.

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Question by Anna C: Why don't we have "Divorce Showers?"?
So I keep getting letters from people having "baby showers" and "engagement showers" and "bridal showers"... kissy-face showers... and oh now it's an invitation to see the baptism of the baby!

I think that discriminates against people who chose not to get married or have babies. Or those who are divorced or broken up.

Where are the "new job" showers, "just got a graduate degree showers?" or "divorce showers?" That seems like a more appropriate time to get gifts and have a party with spiffy invitations and bows and lettering. Yay! I'm free! Give me a new toaster because my ex husband took mine.... or Yay! I choose not to have a baby! Let's all celebrate with formal invitations and tea and... !

I mean if you have a baby or husband, that should be present enough, right? Do you really need a new fridge or whatever? I think people should be donating those gifts to the poor instead of the married, engaged, or babied.

Am I crazy or does anyone else think this?
This was meant to be sarcastic. I'm just putting the thought out there.

I think Divorce showers would be a lot more fun than a Bridal shower, in my opinion.
Never married, but proposed to once... Never divorced. Not lonely, have guys lined up at my door... but I have given up dating/marriage/kids.

Seriously people, this was a just joke. Have a nice night. =)
Aww, I missed my MBA shower. =(

=)

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Answer by Brandon
Because culturally, divorces are viewed as sad moments where you're forced to be torn from your spouse. Of course, the real view is "THANK GOD CHRIS AND I ARE OVER!"

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by kitkatherine

Article by Jnet Verra

Planning a bridal shower for a bride-to-be is just a thoughtful idea to show to her your love and care. Yes, it's a challenge to be her maid of honor, plus the fact that everyone is expecting that you are gonna be the one who will plan the shower for her. But just keep in mind that the reward is always much greater than the risk. Planning a bridal shower anyway makes a wonderful gift for the bride that she will never forget throughout her life!

If you are planning to organize a bridal shower but you are concerned about your budget, don't worry because there are plenty of ways to trim down your expenses. Why not opt for cheap bridal shower favors?

Bridal shower favors and even wedding favors are not mandatory, but are great to give to the party guests. Favors hold some special purpose and meaning. Each receiving guest will feel thanked and appreciated when given a special token at the bridal shower. Giving bridal shower favors however, doesn't mean that you have to spend a lot on the favors. If you are on a budget, then be it. Anyway, there are so many cheap favors that you can find out there.

If you opt for cheap bridal shower favors, don't feel like you are limited to low grade tokens that sure to be given less importance at the bridal shower. Find some really good quality items that when you purchase them, the seller will give you a big discount. Most of the time this happens online. Check out various websites that that can cater your need for bridal shower favors that really look good, yet can be purchased at a low price.

Some cheap bridal shower favors that you may consider are:

* Mini photo albums that you can decorate and personalize by simply placing your few photographs. Mini photo albums can be purchased in bulk at a discount price. * Key chains or key rings that almost all people need. Key chains and key rings are available in many different designs, shapes, styles, and colors to choose from. They can also be personalized by engraving names, initials, or other creative elements on them. * Manicure bags that every girl at the party will sure to appreciate. You can find favor bags in a wide variety of designs, colors, and styles to choose from. Pick the best type of bags and then fill them with some manicure paraphernalia, and embellish them with pretty ribbons. * Colored paper fans which are great for a bridal shower held on a warm day. The guests will sure to enjoy using paper fans even after the shower when they really need to cool themselves off. Paper fans can be decorated with some pretty graphics, ribbons, or other beautiful trims. * Mini bottles of wine or any liquor can also make an inexpensive choice. But just ensure that all the minors at the party will have their own separate favors. You can add a card printed with a toast proposal for a final touch.

Planning a bridal shower on a budget is not that difficult though. With these cheap bridal shower favors to choose from, anyone who wants plan a bridal shower will not be discouraged. Aside from favors, you can also save money on the bridal shower decorations, bridal shower invites, and bridal shower games and prizes.

Find More Bridal Shower Articles

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